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I myself have been a bridesmaid 5 times, and luckily each experience was an enjoyable one where my dear friends cherished each moment of their wedding plans. However, it can be difficult for the modern bridesmaid to know what exactly her duties include when she says yes to this esteemed position. Here are some helpful tips for you beautiful bridesmaids on how to make sure that your friend has the wedding of her dreams, stress free.

1. Plan a bridal shower/stagette- It’s very important that the bridal party discuss what kind of an event they are going have for their friend. If the bride is already having 3 showers, then maybe it isn’t important you throw one. However, you should be planning her stagette and finding out from her what she would most like to do. If she’s the type of bride that would rather stay in for an intimate dinner with friends, don’t plan an extravagant getaway. Make sure you have an idea of what she wants, and get a list of people other than you that she wants invited.

2. Attending other Bridal showers- The bride picked you, her dear friends, to stand with her as she experiences the most special day of her life. This also means that you’re her “go-to” girls when other people throw her showers. Whether it’s a community shower at her church, or a family shower at her aunt’s home. You should try your best to be there so she has not only your support, but also help with keeping track of who gave her what gift, and transporting the gifts home afterwards.

3. Attending vendor appointments- If the bride to be has a fabulous wedding planner she may not make this request, but if she doesn’t she may need you to be there for her when she meets with different wedding vendors. Maybe you’ve been married for awhile and she values your opinion on photographers, caterers and djs. Regardless it’s always good to have a second pair of eyes, ears and opinions when it comes to choosing the people who are behind the scenes on the wedding day. If this has been a difficult process for the bride suggest looking for a wedding planner in Calgary or whatever city they’re in. This could be a real asset to helping your friend make this aspect go smoothly.

4. Always lend a supportive ear- It’s widely known and publicized in the media that weddings can sometimes be stressful. The biggest job your friend may need you for is just doing the job you’ve always done: Being there for her. There’s a reason she wants you beside her, because you’ve always been someone she can lean on, keep that part of it up, she’s going to need a hug every now and then.

Most importantly, make sure you’re helping her keep in touch with what matters most. This is her day to celebrate the love in her life, help her remember that when those stressful bits come up. If you or your friend want more tips or advice on how to help the day run smoothly, contact us we’d be happy to help!

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Wedding Ceremony Love Letter Exchange

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I am so excited to share a fabulous wedding ceremony idea that is oh-so-romantic.  I have to tell you that when one of our recent couples decided to participate in the exchange of love letters during their February 2011 Calgary wedding ceremony it left Jenn and I, as well as their guests, in awe.  So for those wondering how to incorporate this fabulous ceremony into their wedding day here are the key points.

Prior to the wedding day you and your sweetie will each take some quite alone time and reflect on why you love the other person and want to commit your life in marriage to him or her.  It’s a great opportunity to share by way of the written word all of the qualities that you admire in the other, the shared moments that you treasure, what you are most looking forward to in the future, and why you have chosen them to be your life partner.  When you have each finished writing your love letters, you will seal them in separate envelopes.  These two envelopes will then be placed into a keepsake box of your choosing along with a lovely bottle of wine and given to your marriage commisioner prior to your wedding day.

When your big day rolls around, your marriage commissioner will take a few moments during the ceremony to explain to your guests that you have written love letters to one another.  At this point you will exchange your love letters (still sealed in their envelopes) and place them into your keepsake box.  Your marriage commissioner will explain that also contained in the box is a very special bottle of wine.  The letters, and bottle of wine, will be opened by the two of you at a pre-determined milestone in your relationship, at which point you will each read the letter written for you by your sweetheart and share in the lovely bottle of wine.

Here’s to romance!

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While engaging in a favourite pastime of mine the other day, looking at wedding blogs, I came across something that inspired me to write not only my post today, but to think outside the box on something every wedding needs: seating charts. Many people stay true to tradition with their seating chart explaining what table you’re sitting at, and giving the table a name. Personally, I love coming up with new and creative ways of twisting tradition.  I’d love to hear about some of your favourite alternatives to traditional seating charts.

And now without further ado, enjoy some of mine!

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Last summer we designed a wedding a wedding in Lake Louise that featured lollipop seating card boxes and I must say it was one of my favourite details of the summer!  It created a sensational focal point and conversation piece during the cocktail hour and was a SWEET detail in more ones than one.  It’s unique, it’s fun, and it’s a fabulous way to combine the guest favours with a practical necessity for the reception.

Be sure to think about the theme of your wedding when deciding on your version of a seating chart. We designed this lollipop seating card box for a youthful couple who were fun.  The groom had a serious sweet tooth and the wedding also featured a candy buffet so it was a great way to tie those elements together. The following are some interesting ideas to put your own personality into your wedding and let your guests in on your favourite things!

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This couple made their own beverages for their wedding favours. They hooked the seating card around the neck of the bottle so their guests could grab their drink and know exactly where to go.

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These cookies are adorable! It’s a yummy treat for your guests, and would be perfect paired with a milk and cookies bar at the reception!

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I think these fun and funky place cards featuring comment bubbles are unique and modern. It’s definitely a highlight of the table décor that will stick with your guests.

The important thing to remember when you’re working on any aspect of your wedding is that it should be a reflection of you as a couple and the overall experience you are looking to create for your guests.  The little details come together to tell a story and will let your guests know that you have thought of them.  This is an incredibly special day in your lives and filling it with details that exude your personality will make a stunning impact. Pick a seating chart that tells a story of who you are and it will leave a lasting impression on the ones you love.

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You’re Engaged, Now What?

January 2, 2011

If you are one of the recent women to get engaged over the holidays, congratulations!  Christmas and New Year’s are popular times to get engaged so you are in good company.  Enjoy this very special time in your life!

After the initial thrill of the engagement settles, you quickly realize that there is the momentous task before you of planning a wedding.  Guest lists and budgets, design and decor, local or destination, the questions and decisions seem endless.  And I know that just as your love is unique so are your dreams for your wedding day.  Regardless of the size of your budget, no cookie cutter wedding will do for you.  I know you are looking for ways to make your wedding day as personal, unique and inspired as the love you share with your fiancé and I want to help you make your wedding day everything you dream it will be.

I love working with brides to plan and design their Calgary, Canmore, Banff and Lake Louise weddings and few things excite me as much as hearing about a fantastic engagement story and chatting with a bride about her upcoming wedding day!  The energy and excitement is unparalleled.  Unfortunately what often accompanies one of the happiest times in an engaged couple’s life is…one of the most stressful times in a couple’s life.  Check out some great tips below on how to ease the strain before it even begins.

1. Determine Your Budget

It’s important to figure out how much money you have to spend before you fall in love with a dress you can’t afford or a venue that won’t meet your needs.  You don’t need the unnecessary heartache and stress.  Start by discussing with your fiancé what financial resources you have available.  This may include a discussion with each of your parents to see what they are able and willing to contribute.  Even though many couples today handle much of the cost of their wedding it is still common for parents to help out in some way.  Chat with them in the beginning so you know what support you will be getting.

Did you know that Wedding Planners (like me) are an excellent resource when it comes to making the most of your wedding dollars?  It’s our job to know what venues and vendors will give you the most bang for your buck and we can often access discounts for you to save you money, discounts you wouldn’t be able to access on your own.  We know what things actually cost and can guide you to what a realistic budget will be for creating your dream wedding vision.  This is a huge asset to the couples I work with, not to mention a huge stress reliever!

2. Choose Your Bridal Party Wisely

Consider carefully your girlfriends (and guy friends) before asking them to be in your wedding party.  These friends can be a big help and support during the planning process OR one of your biggest headaches, so choose wisely.  Select people who are willing to step up to the plate and who also have the time to help you out.  You definitely don’t want someone who creates drama at every turn.  Remember though that these are your friends (not your slaves).  Be clear about your expectations and the costs involved up front and you are well on your way to forming a Rockin’ Wedding Party that will help make your planning a joy.

3. Get Organized

Before you take your first steps down the aisle to wedding planning bliss, be sure you are starting on the right foot.  Grab a binder so that you can keep track of all your info in one place.  There’s nothing worse that finding a great vendor and then not being able to find the paperwork that guaranteed your super rate.  I recommend including some clear sleeves and a binder with inside pockets so you have lots of storage options.  Don’t forget to add dividers so that you stay on top of your game and never have to go looking for that fab cake baker’s card again…you’ll know just where to find it.  Also be sure to include a planning checklist of everything you need to accomplish between now and your wedding day as well as a budget sheet so that you can stay on track and never miss a step.

As excited as you are to get the plans underway, be sure to schedule in breaks from your Wedding Planning to just enjoy some quality time with your honey.  It’s important to build in time and activities throughout the planning process that nurture your relationship and remind you of why you are getting married in the first place.  Planning a wedding can be stressful at times but remember that it doesn’t have to be.  Wedding Planners (like me) make it our passion and purpose to help make the wedding planning process as enjoyable and stress free as possible for brides like you.

Love and best wishes,

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With the chilly weather we have been having in Calgary coupled with snow all around I have found myself indulging in one too many warm cups of hot chocolate.  There is just something about this time of year that says “hot chocolate.”  Given my current hot chocolate craze I thought I would share one of my favourite winter wedding ideas, and that is having a hot chocolate bar.  These are always a huge hit and are perfect to set up following the ceremony (your guests can indulge in a sweet beverage while you are off on your photo shoot) and they work equally well after dinner or at the end of the night.  When I create a hot chocolate bar for one of my events, I always like to make sure that it is styled beautifully and has ample topping options for guests to choose from.  Below are some of my favourite selections.

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These heart shaped marshmallows would be perfect in a post wedding cup of cocoa.

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One of my personal favourites, white chocolate dipped peppermint sticks!  You can find the recipe here.winter wedding hot chocolate bar

These peppermint marshmallow pops with white chocolate are too cute!  They would definitely add a touch of style to any hot chocolate bar.

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If you are looking for some fabulous and cost effective options, you can’t go wrong with mini marshmallows, mini chocolate chips, toffee sprinkles, candy cane sprinkles and cinnamon sticks.

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I also recommend including options such as whipped cream, chocolate and caramel sauce, powdered sugars such as vanilla, mint and toffee, white, milk and mint chocolate shavings, syrups such as mint, hazelnut, and raspberry, and liqueurs such as Bailey’s, Creme de Mint, Kahlua, Grand Marnier.

Thanking Your Wedding Party

October 5, 2010

As is our custom, the night before the wedding friends and family who are sharing in your special day gather to eat and celebrate the joyful day that is to come. This is also usually the time when you give your bridesmaids and groomsmen the gift that you put thought into, the one that says “Thank you for being our friend, and being with us on our wedding day.”  For some the job of finding the perfect gift can be a stressful one. What to buy? How much to spend? What if this necklace isn’t Sally’s style? Following are some helpful tips and suggestions on picking the perfect gift for those wonderful people in your lives.

Not all the gifts need to be the same. When I was a bridesmaid in my best friend’s wedding, she took the time to search for a gift for me that she knew I would love. When I opened it I felt as though she had found me something that told me how much she cared about me as her friend.  It signified the relationship we had spent 11 years building from little girls into young women. Yes it may take more time to shop individually for each girl/guy, but trust me they will notice and love it even more!

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Bridesmaid’s flower necklace credit: mignonne handmade on Etsy

Jewelry is a great idea, but make sure it suits the girl’s style and personality. Some of your friends may love bold jewellery that makes a statement, while others might like something more delicate. Do you really want to spend the money on something that your friend may wear once and put to the back of her jewellery box? Take notice of what your friend’s usually wear and buy them something that you know will suit them just right.

Pink coach purses

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If you’re strapped for time and want to do the same gift you can still mix it up. I worked a wedding this summer where the bride gave all her girls Coach clutch purses. What girl doesn’t love a fabulous handbag? But instead of going for straight black or silver for everyone, she chose the colour that she thought her friends would like the best. A great way to still put thought into it without searching for days.

As for the boys…

groomsmen gift

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For your groomsmen it can be much harder looking for the perfect gift. The typical gifts are engraved flasks, shot glasses, or cuff links, and for most men these items would never get used or they may have 3 other versions sitting in a drawer from being given the same groomsman gift over and over again. Why not plan a special day together and treat them to it instead? Taking the boys out for a round of golf, or off to play paintball somewhere, is a good way to show them you’re thankful for what they do.

When it comes down to it your friends are a part of your day because they love you and would do anything to make sure you’re happy.  If you give them something from the heart, they will feel that love and appreciation in return.

Romantic & Rustic Fall Wedding

September 9, 2010

Yesterday I celebrated my 3 year wedding anniversary.  In celebration of the season (and my recent anniversary) I thought I would share my favourite fall wedding that I have designed and planned to date.  Two years ago on my anniversary I was contacted by Kristin, the bride, to plan her fall wedding at the River Cafe.  When I first read her email I have to admit I got goose bumps.  She was contacting me on my wedding anniversary, interested in having me design and plan her wedding for the following year at the River Cafe.  I first discovered the River Cafe just over 6 years ago when I went on my first date with my now husband.  If we had chosen to get married in Calgary, the River Cafe would have been a top contender for a venue no doubt.  I jumped at the chance to work with this amazing couple and now every time I have the delight of dining at the River Cafe, I not only remember my first date with TLAW fondly, but I also remember Kristin and Shelby’s amazing, love filled celebration.

The bride and groom wanted a rustic fall wedding infused with romance and some vintage touches incorporating yellow, orange, purple and brown.  I loved designing with this colour palate and adored every minute working with this amazing couple.  I’ll share some of my tips below for creating a cohesive design and making your dollars stretch using this fabulous wedding as an example!  Thanks to Kristi Sneddon for the amazing photos you see below.

For the ceremony, the bride and groom wanted to display some of their engagement photos.  I designed a table that incorporated a rustic centerpiece, displayed in a tree stump, and surrounded the photos with moss, amaranths, rocks and candles.  The centerpiece, candles, rocks and greenery did double duty as they were also used later at the reception.

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I loved, loved, loved Kristin’s bouquet.  To incorporate a unique and rustic element, we had the florist wrap the stem with some bark wire.  The results speak for themselves.

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One of my tips for making your bridal bucks stretch is to ask yourself how you can make the most use of the items you are ordering.  This is especially important in terms of items for the ceremony since this is a relatively short period of the wedding day.  I designed pew markers that could also be used as centerpieces at the reception.

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If you are wanting special transportation for you and your new hubby, such as this vintage 1955 Rolls Royce, make sure you take advantage of it and snap some great photos with your photographer that showcase the car as well as the couple.

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The River Cafe is the ideal venue for an intimate rustic wedding.  If you are wanting a Calgary wedding but want the feeling of being surrounded by nature, this is one venue worth checking out.  The food is divine, the service is impeccable, and the venue’s natural decor is so fantastic that you don’t need much to add your own touch and make it truly memorable for your guests.

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Custom twig monograms are an easy DIY project (some metal clothes hangers, twigs, and raffia) and can add another element to the overall design.

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This gorgeous tall arrangement of curly willow, dahlias, orchids, gerberas, lilies, and amaranths was a show stopper at both the ceremony (as 2 focal point arrangements framing the couple) as well as the reception.

purple, yellow, orange and green floral arrangement with curly willow

Here is another item I designed to do double duty.  Instead of folded tent cards directing guests to their tables, I played up the rustic theme and hung the cards from manzanita branches, placed in vases of rocks.  There was a sign directing guests to find their seating assignment on the tree and then write their love and good wishes for the couple of the back of their name cards.  This created a unique focal point in the room and also doubled as a “guest book.”

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seating card sign

At the guest tables, a rock was placed on each napkin to indicate the guest seat.  The rocks fit perfectly with the theme and are a great, inexpensive alternative to a paper place card.

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rock seating card

Here you can see the “pew markers” being used as centerpieces.  They were perfect for the design at both the church and the reception at the River Cafe.  I sourced the buckets at the dollar store, which is another great tip.  Look for your supplies in unexpected places as well.  These buckets were baby blue with a bunch of butterflies painted all over them when purchased.  A little brown spray paint later and they were both perfect and affordable.

purple and orange centerpiece

The bride wanted lots of candles used at the reception.  We lined all the window sills with votives and filled the fireplace with pillar candles for a soft romantic glow.  For the tables, I wanted to do something a little different so we created these twig votives which were another easy DIY project.  The twigs were cut to length and then affixed to the votives using raffia.  They added another custom rustic element to the dining tables.  We opted to skip using table cloths (and as such skipped the extra charge) as the natural wooden table tops were the perfect compliment to the rustic, natural theme.

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Instead of paper table numbers and metal stands, I had wooden table numbers custom made that incorporated the leave motif that was used on the couple’s invitations, programs, and other paper products featured at the wedding.

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Some of the “pew markers” were also used to decorate the head table, along with some amaranths for added texture.

River Cafe weddingHere you can see the centerpiece in the tree stump that I mentioned having been used at the ceremony on the table featuring engagement pictures.  At the reception I placed it on the bar where it tied in beautifully with the other rustic elements present in the room.

tree stump vase

Here the leaf motif was incorporated into custom water bottles that were handed out to the live band and given to the wedding party during their photo shoot.  Just one example of the many special touches Inspired Occasions clients are treated to on their wedding day.

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Guests were greeted upon arrival with a delicious signature cocktail that tied in with the colour theme.  These were definitely a hit with all in attendance.

Guests were also appreciative of the tray passed hors d’oeuvres during cocktail hour.

A live band set the perfect tone for this intimate affair.  Classics from the likes of Frank Sinatra were played, along with some more contemporary selections.  The live music was divine during cocktail hour and dinner and had the guests packing the dance floor into the wee hours.

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Paula, you had a clear vision of what you wanted for your wedding day and your modern and elegant “winter romance” wedding was beautiful. As someone who has “been there and done that” our readers could benefit from your wisdom.

What was your best decision?
I was not afraid to plan early, I planned and made lists. We had an 18 month engagement; I really started planning with one year to go. Each month I had goals set. Once I accomplished what was on my list I moved on to the next month. As the wedding came closer I made my monthly lists in advance as I knew I had to do certain things by a certain time. Also, I really involved my fiancée and put him to work. He was happy to help, but really let me take the reins. I think it’s important to not put all the planning on one person. We had a large, somewhat elaborate wedding, we needed help! My favorite time was the last week leading up to the wedding, from Saturday to Saturday I knew each day exactly what needed to be done, it was busy but not stressful at all. I also made sure we had free time to visit with our out of town guests, friends and family, that was extremely important to us. My bridesmaid from Nova Scotia came in one week early and she worked with me every day, really helped keep me on track!

What was your favourite moment on your wedding day?
Can I have two?
Seeing my groom at the end of the aisle! I really didn’t see much else; I just needed to get to him. I was very nervous up until the day of the wedding. Then I had a calming sense come over me. It also helped that my brother was our minister, which made it much more relaxing and special.
And our first dance! We worked so hard from September to January in dance classes to learn our choreographed funky Rumba. We danced to “Lovely Day” by Bill Withers. My Father/Daughter dance was also choreographed so that was very special as well!

What would you do differently?
Probably not wait so long. 18 months was a long time! We had a deal though, Jeff wanted a large formal wedding and I’ve wanted a winter wedding for as long as I can remember. So we compromised. We go engaged in July 2006, the following winter we probably could have pulled it off, but we waited a year till the next winter.

What was the most unexpected part of the planning process?
The unexpected part of planning is exactly how much there is to do! It really helps when you have people who will support you and help you out. I had several vendors, an event planner /décor person and I still felt there was so much to do! We could not have pulled off our day without our vendors seeing our vision!

What was the most difficult part of the wedding planning process?
The waiting! A lot of planning our wedding was “hurry up and wait.” Some vendors want to be paid so close to the date, I would have preferred to do that early and get them off our plate. Instead I had to schedule them all in during the last week.

What advice would you offer to brides currently planning their big day?
Slow down and think. What really matters to you on your wedding day? You are marrying the man of your dreams!! When it comes to the planning itself, don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Looking back, what purchases would you do without?
I probably didn’t need 4 pairs of shoes. I just couldn’t decide! But seriously nothing major really, we budgeted and thought about what we wanted for the day. Purchasing while planning can easily get out if hand. Be careful!

Details were very important to you for your wedding day. You thought of everything and made sure that your guests were swept away. What difference did this make?
I think it helped set a tone and a feel for the day. At the end of it all, most people will remember they were at Paula and Jeff’s wedding. But while they were there, they were a part of our special vision. It really was exactly as I had hoped for, “winter romance.” Jeff and I will remember it that way; it was the happiest day for both of us, and just how we envisioned.

What is the most important thing for couples to consider when interviewing vendors?
I think you need to consider the city we live in (Calgary). Its boomtown. With so many young people, vendors are not really struggling for business. So, consider this, does your vendor care about your vision? Do they believe they can help make it or make it better? Do they email or call you back in a timely fashion?
I think when you hire any vendor they need to show you they are giving 100% for you.

Anything else you want to share with our readers?
Relax; enjoy your day and Smile! All eyes are on you! The best advice I got was to take a few minutes during our reception, stand back with my groom, and drink it all in. Look at your celebration no matter how big or small and remember that moment you had together.

Thanks for stopping by and sharing some of your wisdom with us Paula! Congratulations again on a beautiful wedding.

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